Say this out loud: "Thoughts are things." "Thoughts matter." "Thoughts ARE matter."
What's the harm in thinking negative thoughts, you ask? Certainly if you don't say it OUT LOUD then it cannot harm another. The problem is, what you THINK of you act on subconsciously. What you act on you effect.
An example of this would be a coworker who annoys you. When they approach you, your thoughts stick to a place and time in the past where they have annoyed you before. Your muscles, especially around your face, neck and upper back tense up. You make microexpressions of disgust or annoyance. Unbeknownst to you, your feet point toward the door or the exit route. Before they have even spoken one word, they have picked up subconsciously on your cues that you do not want them near you. Instinctively they become defensive, and here's the kicker - annoying. You have created the experience you wished to avoid! Now you have a new memory of this annoying experience... which will be transferred into chemicals and neurons, which will now be stored in your brain and your body - AS MATTER - for later retrieval when you have future contact with this person.
How can you break the cycle and have a new experience with the same old dull person? In all likelihood you've already performed this miracle when you weren't even trying. Think of a time when you had a joyous event - you just heard good news or someone surprised you with a text just to remind you that they love you. In your exuberant state you were unable to create matter in the same way you had before. That 'annoying' person no longer had the power to annoy you, and you treated them with Love. They also behaved differently, and that surprised you, when suddenly you found out you two shared an interest or past experience.
It is in this way that we must actively present ourselves to each new experience. In every situation we face, we must put ourselves into our heart space. Approaching and responding to others and to events with tolerance, acceptance and Love will Create the Best Relationships, the Fastest Spiritual Growth and the Reciprocation of